What is in the end this weird event
that sometimes gets us so excited, that has the ability to get us up in the
clouds and down into the sewages...?
According to the dictionary date is:
noun
noun: date; plural noun: dates
- 1.
the day of the
month or year as specified by a number.
"what's
the date today?"
synonyms:
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"the
only dates he can remember are his birthday and 1066"
|
o
a particular day or year when a given event occurred or will
occur.
"1066 is
the most famous date in English history"
o
the years of a particular person's birth and death or of the
beginning and end of a particular period or event.
o
the period of time to which an artefact or structure
belongs.
"the
church is the largest of its date"
synonyms:
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"a
later date than the 15th century is suggested for this bridge"
|
- 2.
a social or
romantic appointment or engagement.
"I've got
a hot date"
Man is a social animal meaning that, by
nature, we will tend not to live in isolation. This is how, most of us, are
brought up surrounded by people that love us. In fact, even Mogli was not
living in isolation and the hermits, I believe, are the exception that confirms
the rule.
In our days, both man and women are taught
that the correct way of life is to study, find a job, be successful
professionally, fall in love, marry have kids and live happier ever after.
This how most of the kids’ fairy tales end - but is it life really like that? Are
we all able to find our "prince our princess charming"? Does every
human being get to live happily ever after? Or else to, at least, find their
happy ending? Isn't society demanding too much from each one of us as
individuals?
I'll just speak for my self. I have
been brought up the traditional good way. Studying was not even a question, as
my mom used to say, her job was to go to the office every day and my siblings,
as well as mine was to go to school. All the fairy tales I have been read had
the live happy ever after.
Even if I was not very keen to believe
in it as I saw so many not good relationships as a child, I bought the idea on
the simple and common mistaken argument that something like what I saw was not
going to happen to me.
So I studied, I found a job, meanwhile
I fell in love a couple of times and had relationships... none of them with
that "happy ever after" miracle that I no longer believe to exist. I
have made my choices, seeing that relationships were not at all simple; I've
focused on my professional objective. As I was becoming better in my job, this
was freezing my personal life. Time for finding someone was short, and the
patience little. One of the arguments my longest ex gave me when we broke up
after 4.5 years was have that I was working too much and studying to much
while doing my Master degree and he didn't get to see me enough. Although this
is not exactly why we broke up, truth is said, he was right.
Life kept running, and the years went
by at the speed of light. I'm now on my 30ish and I guess I'm what people
normally call a successful person, but let me tell you... all this for sure
makes my life comfortable, but does it actually make it happier? I have my
doubts. I severely doubt when after a dog day at work I get back home to find
no one waiting for me, when I feel like doing something romantic and don't
really have a guy to do it, when I want to plan holidays and have no one to do
it with, when I'm not invited to many of my married/couple friends dinners or
parties just because they believe that I will get bored as our lives have
become different and specially with the kids around. Actually I don't know why,
but I think that most couples unconsciously tend to exclude single people from
their circles...
Anyways lets get back to the
"date" subject. I have never really had a date in my life until a
couple of days ago, this by taking it as a "social or romantic
appointment". Actually all the dates I had before were only dATES, meaning
that the person with which they have been was already someone I somewhat knew –
when in the movies it happens with people who don’t really know.
Not long ago though, I met this guy in
an airplane "such a cliché" we spoke and sort of got along well with
each other. A couple of weeks after I got back home he starts emailing me and
by a matter of destiny we were only able to arrange a date a couple of days
ago. I am not experienced in dates, but I must tell that all went super nice.
He was polite, well dressed, and able to keep up the conversation in a huge
variety of themes, intelligent, funny and smiley.
I guess I kind of liked it; and even if
I don’t know if it will end up in something more or no - as it is as you guess to early – I got
to know someone interesting and funny who was able to make me smile and this is
a plus.
